I'm lost. I feel like I'm wasting my life, but I don't know how to get it on track. My plans were to live in my native Austria, work the winter season in a bar, then snag a job as a computer repair tech and that's it. But somehow now that I look at it.... it's not very fulfilling. I want more out of life. I don't know, is it just a phase? It seems that every time I lay a general path for me to walk on, after being on that path for 6 months I get bored of it and want something else. And I can't really think of any job or anything that would fill that need. I feel like a dead weight right now. Uncertain what I should do, where I should go. All I know is that I was really truly happy when I was living with my best friend, but it's almost childish to want to live with him forever, seeing as how I've got a girlfriend and he does too and I doubt they really want to live like that. Plus I need something of a career to start. I can't just jump from job to job doing random things my whole life, there's no security in that. I can't start a family like that. I feel almost ahead of myself, since I'm only 20. Everyone my age is just thinking about the now and not about settling down and finding a permanent place in this world.
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I think what you are feeling is very common for people your age, it's a transitionary stage. I am going through a similar thing as I enter mid life, which is another transitionary stage, it's like...OK, we've done that...now what? There are some "tools" available, like preference surveys, talent and interest surveys to help people determine what their skills and interests are to help them set goals for themselves. If nothing else, such surveys may remind us of some options that are available to us that we may have forgotten about or not thought of on our own. I don't think there is a clear or easy way to decide where to put our energies at such a time, part of it is going through the discomfort and lost feelings, it is a neccessary part of the process and not a sign that we are truly aimless or doing anything wrong. It is this feeling that will actually motivate us to find a direction. There is a restlessness inside us, a hunger that causes us to seek an answer. Sometimes just doing a chain of random jobs, meeting and speaking with a large variety of people puts something into motion. We find out what we don't like, which eliminates some things, and what does peak our curiosity. It also helps to keep in mind that whatever we choose now, we are not stuck with for the rest of our lives. In life we will have several transitionary stages when we will be able to, or required to change tracks. It is not as if the decision you make today will trap you forever. I don't really have an answer, I am going through the same thing, and asking myself the same questions as you...and trying this, and trying that, and wondering if I'll ever find something to put my energy into, then I remember that I've been here before, and if I keep my eyes and heart open, and am a little patient (though sometimes a little impatience is healthy too!) something will present itself. It always has. best to you!
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I absolutely loved Eiere's answer, please read it again and listen. I wouldn't be 20 again for any amount of money.
